by Tanya Parker Mills
My daughter was home for a whirlwind six (yes, only six) days, before returning to Provo to prepare for moving and beginning fall semester. While she was here, she asked me to read a long and thoughtful Facebook note posted by a friend about the lack of sincerity in communication at BYU. Her friend posted this after coming off an unsatisfying DTR (for those of us who are out of it--and I certainly was--that stands for "Define the relationship") conversation with a guy she liked. Her main point was that if people would just be honest from the beginning, a lot of pain and confusion could be avoided.
So, I'd been thinking a good bit about sincerity and then today on the Publishing Pulse I get from QueryTracker, there was a link to this posting by agent Jessica Papin of Dystel & Godrich. I'd love for you to give it a read (and don't skip her readers' comments, either), and then answer the following questions (sincerely) with me:
1) What percentage of the time do we post a comment on someone's blog just to keep our name out there? (I'm guilty of this, I'll admit...for me, I'd say 60%)
2) Do we read all the comments on our own blog postings and reply to each of them because we want to...or because marketing people say we should? (50-50 for me)
3) Do we post on agents' blogs to get their attention and, when we do, do we try extra hard to come across as professional, witty, and cool...or are we just ourselves? (I've only posted on one agency blog and it was to ask a question...though I labored long and hard over exactly how to put the question. Mostly, I'm just a lurker.)
4) Are we afraid to disagree with the blogger publicly in a comment? (Yes...I don't want to burn bridges. But I'm rethinking this after reading what Jessica had to say.)
5) Are we afraid to really be ourselves in our blogging? (Yes, particularly when it comes to politics because I'm sure 80% of you would not only disagree with me but begin to distrust me...after all, I'm a Democrat. GASP! There, now you know.)
I'd love to read your honest responses.