by Kari Diane Pike
I asked my children if they knew the difference between worth and worthiness. They answered me with astounding insight. At 12, 14 and 17, these three youngest offspring know who they are. They know they are children of God: that all people, big small, good and bad, are immortal beings having a mortal experience and are of infinite worth. They explained that nothing can add to or take away from that worth. They also understand that worthiness is something different. Worthiness depends on the choices a person makes. They know that my love for them is unconditional. They know that my trust has to be earned.
During the long of hours of driving to Arizona, and transporting children back and forth to visit friends, I've been giving a great deal of thought to that discussion. I've believed in, and taught the concepts of worth and worthiness all of my life. This morning, I felt the knowledge and testimony of who we are embed deep into my heart.
All week long, I have been flitting here and there playing with my grandchildren and visiting friends. One dear friend asked about our new home in Utah and wanted to know how I was adjusting to the new climate, neighborhood, ward, etc. She wouldn't accept and quick, "fine", or "good." She dug deep. She finally struck gold when I admitted, "I am there to learn. Everyone there is highly educated, not only secularly, but spiritually too. I really don't think I have anything to offer them there. " Wow. Where did that come from? We had a long discussion about worth and the dangers of valuing ourselves based on our accomplishments. I went to bed still pondering. In the shower this morning (I always seem to get these 'aha' moments in the shower), these words came to me: "Give them love and friendship. It's all about love. It's all in the ministering. Just love them. "
Now why didn't I think of that!